Friendship has two types according to the influences they would gain. It could be a relationship with people who are good influences to a person. One could say that he is in a friendship of good influence if a person tries to change his old ways to a better one. It is like preventing someone in making decisions that he might regret eventually. On the other hand, a friendship of bad influence would make a person into someone who he is not. It would turn a pure and pristine person into a sinful and violent one.
Friendship comes in a lot of forms but not all of them are what one can truly call “friendship”. Having a friendly relationship with someone because of the benefits one could gain is not a true friendship. The person is just looking for someone whom he could ask something from, in return for the favors he has done for the other one. Receiving something in return of the favor is not a bad thing but it is if it becomes the only reason of their “so-called friendship”. Friends who care less is another form of what a friendship is not. Forgetting some memories is not a person’s fault but not caring whenever one is hurt is showing that he is only there during joyful times. It seems that he only wants somebody to be called his friend so that he would not seem to be a loner. These forms of relationships should not be called friendship since they are just using other people for their own incentives.
If there are forms of what not a friendship is, there are examples of true friendships. People with true friendship celebrate with the person whenever something has happened worth celebrating. But during sad and sorrowful times, he is especially there to sympathize with the person. He would not leave the other one alone in grief especially when he is desperate for someone to accompany and comfort him.
Though there are many forms of relationships, friendship is one that would need to allocate time for it to build. A person just needs to adapt to the kind of person the other one is. When one enters in a relationship, he must be clear of what kind it is to be able to discern whether it is true one or not. He must choose to be with people who would give him good fortunes and at the same time, bring him happiness. To have a fruitful relationship, both persons must give and take for it to last.
Defining a term from my own understanding and belief is not a joke. I would still have to consider the general meaning of the word to be able to present an acceptable definition. I am truly happy with what I had produced based on my knowledge and experiences. If I were asked what I should do to improve it, I would prefer to change or to edit my own definition of the word “friendship” so that I could make it more appropriate to the forms and types of friendship I had presented.
